The Gemara continues to explain the first Mishnah, and examines why a written document is able to create a marriage. Our sages note that a Get, a writ of divorce, ends a marriage, so a document of Kiddushin should be able to form a marriage. In general, we do compare the laws of marriage and divorce, based on Deuteronomy 24:2. That verse juxtaposes divorce and marriage.
However, these is another concept “can a defender become the prosecutor?” This idea is that people feel that something used for a positive outcome should not also create a negative one. So how can a written document which binds a couple together as man and wife also split them apart?
The Talmud answers that the words in each document are totally different. Yes, the written word can create or destroy, but only when the correct words for each situation are used.
This is a stark reminder that our words can lead to positive outcomes or God forbid the total opposite. We need to be aware that our words, especially when used on our partners and family members, create strong emotional reactions.
Even using that same word with a different tone, or with a shrug or a smirk, can lead to a disastrous result in another person.
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